I now had a new battle with my eldest son’s school and his dad to get him the support he deserved and a diagnosis. It took a few years before he was finally diagnosed with Aspersers. He suffered greatly in the school system, he went off the rails and was suicidal, resulting in social services being involved. (A failing service which had already failed him once before and totally lost his trust! A service which puts the abusive father’s rights before that of the child!)
Those years are a blur of battle after battle with professional after professional and each time a side battle with his dad trying to gain control. It was exhausting!! I drew upon all my skills I had learnt to get through each battle, each day, each year and most importantly find the energy to support my son and keep him alive!
Recognising the signs of Autism in my middle son I pushed hard for him to be assessed early on so as not to let him struggle in the school system like his older brother. Thankfully, his school was supportive, and he was assessed through reception year and diagnosed with Autism, specifically Aspersers. Despite his school putting many strategies in place his self-esteem was already being damaged.
My youngest son had struggled with separation anxiety after a traumatic experience at his nursery, he held it together at school putting himself under immense pressure which was instantly released like an explosion as soon as he came out of school.
When my eldest finally agreed to deregister from school in December 2016 to home educate I took the plunge and deregistered all three. I do not agree with our school system, I believe it is outdated, too heavily tested and the one size fits all approach to education is failing many children especially SEN kids.
I believe a child’s education journey should be as individual as they are.